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IS YOUR EGO TOO BIG?

6blog AThese days it is not unusual for people to talk about the ego—a term somewhat related to narcissism. When a person seems too self-centered he/she may be cited as having too big an ego. The fact of the matter is that ego has two important jobs: it is the internal organizer of our personality and helps us survive through its ability to think, evaluate, and prioritize. Furthermore the ego has as much growing up to do as our physical selves and research indicates this involves traversing ten stages. (Loevinger, J. & Wessler, R., 1970.)

Unfortunately research shows that 80 percent of people dwell in stages 5 through 7, with stage 6 being pivotal as a person begins to sense a vague sense of increasing self-awareness on both thinking and feelings levels. At this point a person often wonders if there is more to life than money, fame, and “good times.” Fortunate are those who through reflection, psychotherapy, or other means begin to feel and express thoughts and emotions previously unknown. Included in these new behaviors and attitudes are:

  • A growing awareness of life

  • Recognition of multiple possibilities and situations

  • Believing that exceptions to rules are possible

  • Seeking alternatives to difficult situations

  • Awareness that one is not living up to social standards or ideals

  • Increasing acceptance of individual differences

In reading the above, perhaps you can appreciate the dividing line between persons who are stuck in the lower stages and those who aspire to move upward to the Universal/Integrated tenth stage, where an individual:

  • Understands the importance of being in a state of awareness as often as possible

  • Participates in non-evaluative, integrative witnessing of experience and the meaning of6blog B existence

  • Is at peace with inner conflicts

  • Experiences a deepening sense of connectedness

  • Lives in a constant state of flux of experiences and changing states of consciousness

  • Is aware of the illusion of a permanent individual self

  • Relies on intellect and intuition when appropriate to do so

  • Experiences the bridging of psychology and spirituality

  • Is at one with self and others as ongoing participants in creation

  • Appreciates peak and transcendent experiences being increasingly in the foreground

Learning about each stage—especially the middle and upper stages can be of great help, not only in identifying one’s present stage but also in catalyzing movement to higher stages. The award-winning book Grow Up Your Ego: Ten Scientifically Validated Stages to Emotional and Spiritual Maturity is the perfect book to help do so! Comments about your own experiences regarding ego growth—and how and why it has or has not occurred—are most welcome!

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DO YOU SPEAK YOUR TRUTH?
 

Comments 1

Guest - Pankras Kraeng on Monday, 15 January 2018 14:14

Dear Jeannette,
Thank you for this article on this blog questioning if my ego is too big.
As I have read your first book, journeying, I have tendency to read faster your second book, grow up your ego. But as i came to the exercise given in every chapter, I take my time to see my self or my growing ego. I found it very helpful and applicable. Reading this edition of your blog, I retake the book and found out there are many notes within, that reminding me how helpful it is your book. As you speak on chapter 5 to 7, I found the chapter 6 of your book explain what is emotion very well in the sense that it is explain scientifically, very fundamental and important in life of us and how we need to respect and work on our feelings.

Reading your book is like making a retreat to my life story with your guidance (exercises)
For those who do not have yet this book, I encourage you to have it. You will enjoy and benefit this precious and valuable book

Thank you so much Jeannette for your contribution
Sincerely
Pankras Kraeng

Dear Jeannette, Thank you for this article on this blog questioning if my ego is too big. As I have read your first book, journeying, I have tendency to read faster your second book, grow up your ego. But as i came to the exercise given in every chapter, I take my time to see my self or my growing ego. I found it very helpful and applicable. Reading this edition of your blog, I retake the book and found out there are many notes within, that reminding me how helpful it is your book. As you speak on chapter 5 to 7, I found the chapter 6 of your book explain what is emotion very well in the sense that it is explain scientifically, very fundamental and important in life of us and how we need to respect and work on our feelings. Reading your book is like making a retreat to my life story with your guidance (exercises) For those who do not have yet this book, I encourage you to have it. You will enjoy and benefit this precious and valuable book Thank you so much Jeannette for your contribution Sincerely Pankras Kraeng
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